Wasif asked 2 years ago
Salam , i hope you all are doing fine , im living in joint family since i was born and im currently 22 now , as i grew up i noticed alot of things in the household like how my uncle treats us and all and what type of words he uses for us , we always had a fight with my father to get my uncle out of the house as its my father house but my father says he is letting him live with him bec he is not financially stable and he wanna support him , but at the same time his brother (my uncle) is disrespecting my mom , my sis and my father but when my father is home he acts like the sweetest person . recently something happend which maked me angry and i shouted at my uncle as he disrespected at my sis and since then the atmosphere in the house is quite toxic but whenever i discuss this with my father he says it’s encouraged to live together and support each other in islam . I gave my father many examples but he still says its like this and we will stay like this so my question is am i right for taking stand infront of my uncle for the respect of my mom and sis? And is it okay according to islam to make him leave the house and get his own for his own family? Because my father says he is letting him stay to support him for the blessings of Allah almighty but at the same time this is also causing alot of issues as now im facings mental health issues aswell
Admin Staff answered 2 years ago
Walikumasalam
Islam emphasizes the importance of maintaining good relationships with family members and supporting them in times of need. However, this does not mean that one should tolerate mistreatment, disrespect, and abuse from family members.
As a Muslim, it is your duty to stand up for the respect and dignity of your mother and sister. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “The best among you are those who are best to their wives and family.” (Sunan Ibn Majah)
If your uncle’s behavior is causing mental health issues and a toxic environment in the house, it may be necessary for your father to take action to ensure the well-being of his family. It is not Islamically mandatory for your father to let your uncle live with him indefinitely, especially if his presence is causing harm.
Your father should try to talk to your uncle about his behavior and the impact it has on the family. If your uncle is unwilling to change his behavior, your father may need to consider alternative options, such as encouraging him to find his own place or seeking the help of a mediator to resolve the conflict.
In summary, while Islam encourages supporting family members, it does not condone mistreatment, disrespect, and abuse. It is important to stand up for the respect and dignity of family members while also maintaining a healthy and peaceful environment in the household.